Blogger Envy – How to beat the Green Eyed Blog Monster

Blogger Envy – How to beat the Green Eyed Blog Monster

I’m going to be real with you a sec – I am so guilty of looking through the social media accounts of people I admire/want to be like and throwing an almighty strop because my life is not like that. Sometimes, I let the green eyed bitch inside me grab hold of the wheel and steers me towards “BUT I WORK HARD TOO, SO WHY DON’T I GET OPPORTUNITIES/FREE THINGS/INVITES/LIFE GOALS”. It’s a natural thing that we all do, don’t give me that face.

It can be really hard to drag yourself out of that funk to be honest – once you let the self-shame spiral take effect, it can be difficult to reverse it and remind yourself that actually, you really don’t have to compare yourself to others to find your own worth. It’s a lot like self-love and body positivity really – once you learn to appreciate yourself and your own magic, you can conquer anything. But how do you fight the jealousy demons?

  • Take stock of what you’ve achieved

My biggest issue sometimes is getting too involved in what I wish I could have and I lose sight of all the things I have achieved. Yeah, I might want to get to having 10k followers on all my platforms, but this time last year, I had just under 300. And this year, I have 4200+ on Instagram and 3200+ on Twitter. Doing reviews for brands, having someone other than your mum or bestie read your blog, taking amazing photos are all things to be SO proud of. You are lapping people who just dream of blogging – you are already doing it!

  • Give yourself achievable goals

One of the worst things to do is to be unrealistic with yourself. We can all aim for the stars, but ultimately there is a lot of smaller stuff that needs to be achieved first like, you know, writing a blog post or sending some tweets out or making the most of Instagram…. I find it really helpful to put into perspective what I want to achieve on a monthly basis. I set out how many blog posts I’d like to write, when I would like to post on social media, what platforms I want to focus on and what topics I want to write about. If I achieve them, YAY! If I don’t achieve them, then I have a whole bunch of things to work on for the following month. THERE ARE NO RULES when it comes to blogging – just do what you feel is best!

  • Remember why you started

It is so easy to get lost in what everyone else is doing that you lose sight of why you started in the first place. I started blogging because I wanted to be an inspiration to other women who had a body like me. A bunch of other stuff has happened (thankfully!) that means I get to review things, work with brands and people that I have loved since I was just getting into fashion, I have had opportunities I would never have had before – but I still need to remember my original mission statement. Am I still achieving what I set out to achieve?

  • lottie-lamour-blogger-envy-plus-size-blogger-personal-postStop watching other people

I read a quote on Twitter the other day that said “Stop comparing your full film to someone else’s highlight reel” and I’ll be honest, it’s like someone slapped me with a cod. A big, sweaty cod. Because that’s just it, isn’t it? Everyone posts the best version of themselves online – what you don’t see is the sweat they dropped to get there or the myriad of “no’s” they got before they got that particular “yes”. You also don’t see the anxiety that person has, or the mental turmoil that they might be experiencing. I’m often told people wish they had my confidence or positivity but I have anxiety and a chronic illness – I’m not bouncy and happy-go-lucky all the time, but I’m challenging myself to be more so. The journey can be hard sometimes, and often you might wonder why you are doing what you’re doing. We all feel that way at some point so trust that – what matters is what you do with that feeling.

  • Don’t be afraid to ask for help.

I am ridiculously stubborn. Sometimes, I sabotage myself because I feel I should be able to do something and that I am capable of doing something when really, I could do with a few words of encouragement or a little bit of help here and there. You are not a failure if you reach out for help. In fact, you’re stronger than most to admit it to yourself and actively seek the help. I’m lucky in that people I admire are also people I can rely on for some help from time to time, so I can bounce ideas off them – don’t be afraid to do the same with people you admire too. Reach out to them and ask if they mind you asking them a question. If they have the time, they will respond and help 9/10 times. We might all be in competition with each other, but we’re also super supportive, and most people will feel flattered that you hold them in that regard that you want to have help from them!

lottie-lamour-blogger-envy-plus-size-blogger-personal-postUltimately, what I’m trying to say here (albeit slightly imperfectly) is that if you have started a blog already, you are doing amazingly well. If you haven’t started yet, you’re still doing amazingly well because you’re thinking about it. We’re all on journeys – some of them are harder than others and see more obstacles, some of them are smoother, some of them appear smooth but are actually super bumpy – and you really just have to trust the process. Don’t be afraid to ask for help, don’t worry if you haven’t done a blog post in a while, don’t worry if you didn’t reach the number of views you were hoping for – blogging happens in peaks and troughs, it’s all part of the process. Trust the process, trust yourself and keep on keeping on. There’s space for us all and we all have new things to bring to the table.


  1. JessWarbler
    July 11, 2016 / 9:00 pm

    For someone who only started their blog last week, this is really interesting to read. I started a blog for myself, not to please anyone else. I feel like if I keep that in mind I’ll do well. And I am loving it so far!

  2. July 11, 2016 / 9:20 pm

    So glad I found your blog, I need to be more positive & stop worrying what others are doing.

  3. July 11, 2016 / 9:23 pm

    Really great advice. It’s so easy to get envy over other bloggers, but you’ve just got to remind yourself why you write. If you write for the ‘free things, events etc’ you’re writing for all the wrong reasons. They should be perks for your writing, not the sole reason you write.

  4. July 11, 2016 / 9:26 pm

    Thank you so much for writing this! I started my blog just over a month ago, and I don’t have the following that I wish I did. I needed that reminder to focus on the things I have accomplished, rather than the things that I haven’t yet.

  5. July 11, 2016 / 9:34 pm

    This is such a good post dear! I am so with you on not following others, I need to stop that I also get very envious when schrolling through other people’s “perfect” life. But what I keep fortgetting is that it’s not “reality” its just a bunch of photos on a screen. I wish I was more earthed and not so much into this social media world, but unfurtunately that comes with having a blog for so many years! BUt in the grand scheemes of things it is not particularly healthy and can make you loose confidence. It is very sad that it make people feel shitt, I always feel shitt when I see other peoples “sucessful” life but not knowing they might be struggling with the same things like I do or maybe worse.

    I struggle with anxiety aswell, it is hard work! Though my instagram feed looks flawless, it is not reality. Thank you for sharing this!

    Celia x

  6. fashionmommywm
    July 11, 2016 / 9:40 pm

    I’ve been blogging for 6 years now and have had some fantastic opps and experiences. I think bloggers need to not compare themselves to others, they need to work for themselves and strive for themselves. It is not a competition.

  7. July 11, 2016 / 9:54 pm

    A post every upcoming blogger must read. Today when I look at my blog and compare it to the first post I published, I have come a long way and I know there is a long way ahead of me too.

  8. Nicola
    July 11, 2016 / 10:24 pm

    Love the pictures! This can be difficult, my main gripe is when there’s brands that I post about all the time just because I love them. I never work with them, but I don’t really mind because that’s not why I buy the products. But then I see another blogger being gifted their products when I know they aren’t even really interested in that brand, grrr!

    Nicola //

  9. July 12, 2016 / 2:43 am

    I’ve been in the blogging world now for over 8 years and while I am glad for how far I’ve come and all my accomplishments, it hasn’t gotten any easier, just busier. I take pride in my work and love that I have grown so much. Great post and great tips 🙂

  10. July 12, 2016 / 2:44 am

    Awesome tips and thoughts. I’ve been blogging for 8 years and it never seems to get easier, but it doesn’t get smoother and I love and enjoy what I do 🙂

  11. July 12, 2016 / 3:17 am

    This was absolutely beautiful and I couldn’t agree more with all of these points. I for sure scroll through social media and get upset sometimes as well and feel discouraged and it makes my blog suffer because then I no longer have the motivation. It’s something I struggle with everyday and definitely have to remind myself of these tips so it’s nice to know there’s someone out there with the same outlook haha! Great post babe!

  12. July 12, 2016 / 4:25 am

    I love this SO so much. Not least because I’ve been guilty of the “green-eyed blog monster” from time to time. I’m making this my mantra from now on: “You are lapping people who just dream of blogging – you are already doing it!”

  13. July 12, 2016 / 2:27 pm

    I totally agree that you should focus on your own goals with blogging and try not to compare yourself to others.

  14. July 12, 2016 / 7:24 pm

    I’ve definitely struggled with this as well and I love the tips on how to handle it. I haven’t been blogging for long and sometimes just starting out is so intimidating! Thanks for sharing about this, it’s incredibly helpful.

    xo, alice / T Y P E N U

  15. Emma | Creative Explorations
    July 13, 2016 / 3:28 am

    Thank you for such an incredible post. Blogging can be tough, and seeing other people getting what you’re working towards can be even tougher. But these tips are so helpful and important — thanks again!

    Emma |

  16. July 13, 2016 / 5:20 pm

    haha, love this post! I once got the green eyed envy but then stepped back and saw what I had achieved where others haven’t. I am so made up I have been on trips and holidays, I have worked hard to get the opportunities I have. Just like others have worked hard for theirs.

  17. July 13, 2016 / 9:31 pm

    Sometimes it’s really difficult not to compare yourself to other bloggers isn’t it. We need to be more comfortable and confident in ourselves

  18. July 16, 2016 / 7:39 pm

    Its true, the amount of people who have told me I have should have way more followers than I do is unreal but honestly I am ok with it. Sure I would like more followers who wouldn’t but at the same time my following is engaged and that is all that matters. Plus you have a great blog hun xx

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